Credibility and Redundancy

I’m going to make an important point and I need you to pay attention. That sentence, the one I just wrote. The one about saying something important. That was a redundant statement. And it undermined your sense of my credibility as a blogger and an EMS educator. No really, it did.

Not in a huge way. Not like if I had said something that you knew to be completely false, or got all wishy-washy, namby-pamby about some critical issue regarding your patient care. But it made you doubt my sincerity just a little. Somewhere in your subconscious you thought, “If it’s important, why not just say it?” You questioned why I felt the need to preface my important thought with a statement declaring my own thought important.

It’s as if I doubted my own credibility.

So why shouldn’t you doubt it too.

Right?

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Don’t Be A Jerk

I didn’t draw the graph at right. It was made by a woman named Jessica Hagy over at www.thisisindexed.com. Jessica is not in the medical profession. She draws her observations about the world on index cards and posts them online.

She also has a long and growing list of blogging awards from around the world. Mostly due to her brilliantly irreverent style and her ability to make social observations that resonate with people.

Like this one.

It’s a sad but true observation. For some reason, it seems like many medical personnel have an interesting combination of helpfulness and jerkiness. Why do you suppose that is? I’ve thought a lot about that over the years.

I think a friend of mine, Steve Brien put it best when he said, “Some of us still have a lot of us still in us.”

Our profession is about the patient. It’s not about us. Remembering that simple fact, and keeping it at the forefront of our thoughts, isn’t as easy as it might seem.

You Can’t Give Away What You Don’t Have

Imagine we were walking down the beach together on a sunny day and I suddenly looked at you and said, “Would you like an apple?”

If you were hungry, your initial reaction might be, “Yes, I’d love one.” But you might also be a bit perplexed. I mean, what if I clearly didn’t have an apple? Somewhere in your mind you’d wonder where the apple was. Did I have one stashed in a pocket? Do I know a good fruit stand near-by? Your next offering might be an awkward sounding question. “Uh … do you have an apple, Steve?” or perhaps, “Where is it?”

When it comes to physical objects the implication is clear. I can’t give you something that I don’t have. It’s not physically possible. Nothing could be more obvious. And that brings us to an interesting point about some of our more non-tangible assets like compassion, patience, kindness and good patient care.

You see, when writing about things like kindness, compassion and patient rapport I’m as guilty as the next guy of falling into “tips and tricks” mode. In the past I’ve written articles about how to speak and behave in ways that help build patient rapport. I’ve listed tips for making the patient feel welcome and comfortable and I’ve extolled the virtues of good listening, kind interactions and compassionate care. But I, like many other EMS authors, have overlooked one simple truth.

None of it  really works if you don’t feel it.

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Patient Rapport Land Mines

Patient rapport is something we can easily overlook in our quest for better medicine. Our book never touched on it. It was barely mentioned in class. It doesn’t make its way to the EMS conference circuit very often – outside of a few exceptional lectures by Thom Dick. So how important could it possibly be to good patient care?

Patient rapport is one of those foundational skills in EMS. When we improve this one skill, it supports everything else we do. You’ve heard me talk about ways to break through the initial patient / caregiver barrier and develop rapport in the past. Now let me talk about the other side of the coin.

Let’s discuss the things that we do that break down rapport or prevent it from ever forming. It’s much easier to break down rapport than to build it up. Here are some of the landmines that can break a good rapport into bits. We’ve all stepped on these a few times in the past and, unfortunately we’ll probably do it again. The best thing we can do is recognize these awful habits for what they are and try to avoid them at all costs.

Here are my top six patient rapport killers:

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