A recent student of mine is talking about looking for his first EMT job. He tells me how he’s thinking about an ER tech job but he explains how much competition there is for the limited number of jobs. Then we talk about some of the local ambulance services and he explains that they’re mostly looking for folks with previous experience. Finally and I stop him and I say, “John, why don’t you let them decide why they don’t want to hire you?”
Sometimes we’re so quick to say no to ourselves to avoid ever encountering the possibility of someone else saying no to us. Showing up and saying you want the job, the promotion, the raise or anything else in life feels a lot like failure. And we all know how scary failure is. Let’s face it, it’s easier to just say no to ourselves…in private
Then we can move on to something else that’s less fulfilling.
Or here’s another idea.
Let the hiring panel decide why they don’t want to hire you.
Let the hot-looking gal or guy decide why they don’t want to go out with you.
Let the administrator decide why they don’t want to promote you.
Let the field instructor decide why you’re not ready to be a paramedic.
Let the quality assurance manager decide why you shouldn’t have done the right thing for the patient.
And…in the meantime, just keep asking for the stuff you want. And just keep doing the things you want to do.
When you just do the stuff you want to do, you’ll be surprised by how often people are willing to let you. When you just ask for the stuff you want, it’s shocking how often people say yes.
What do you think?